Actively Generate Motivation
This morning, I woke up needing a bit of a boost. I spent about half an hour listening to motivational speakers—lecturers, storytellers, even the occasional yeller—and watched some videos. It’s one of the ways I get myself going. I’ve realized that motivation doesn’t always show up just because I want it to. It’s something I […]
Coping with Setbacks
I used to hate the saying “two steps forward, one step back.” It always seemed unfair that after putting in all the effort to move ahead, I’d suddenly be dragged back again—like some invisible force kept holding me back. That one step back used to feel like failure, and it could be enough to make […]
How to Help When Someone’s Upset
I’ve heard it many times: when someone is upset, don’t offer solutions. Ironically, that idea seems to upset people. If someone I know is struggling and I can clearly see the solution, why wouldn’t I offer it? To understand this better, I thought about my own experiences. What happens when I’m upset? Say I tell […]
Stay Productive Through Intense Emotions
Today, I might not feel motivated to do my job. I might feel bored by the mundane tasks ahead or uninspired by the effort it takes to move through the day. I might not feel like working. But over the years, I’ve learned how to manage my emotions. Through consistent practice and training, I’ve worked […]
Be The Change
When I want to start a new habit, I think about it as becoming a slightly different version of myself—still me, but with something fresh. A new habit means change and growth, which also means stepping into an unfamiliar, uncomfortable but hopeful space. I know now that part of building any new habit is building […]
Why Feelings Matter
How are you? How are you doing? What are you feeling? These questions are everywhere, but they’ve mostly turned into polite greetings. We often respond with a quick, “Fine,” “Can’t complain,” or “Not bad.” But what if we paused and asked ourselves, “What am I really feeling right now?” A lot of us might feel […]
Boundaries Over Blame
When something goes wrong, it’s easy to blame someone else. Maybe my parents didn’t give me what I needed, my partner isn’t noticing me, or my friend is too demanding. Any of those things could be true, but putting all my frustration on other people rarely makes things better. I believe in being direct and […]
Patience Through Pain
I’m physically limited right now. The accident has affected my mobility, strength, and energy. I’m not functioning like I’m used to. On top of needing help with basic tasks—like washing my hair, opening jars, or carrying anything with weight—I also have to give myself a mental break. Physical recovery is hard on the mind too. […]
Fighting Loneliness
Life feels really hard sometimes. Right now, more people feel isolated than ever. Experts are even calling loneliness a modern epidemic. We don’t naturally run into each other like we used to. Many of us work remotely, cutting off the casual connections we’d have during the day. Our devices give us information we once had […]
Living with Pain
I’m in a lot of pain from my accident. Of course, I don’t want to be, but just wishing it away isn’t exactly a plan. When my body hurts, it doesn’t just stop there—my mind gets involved, trying every trick it knows to get rid of it. And if I deny the pain, it’s like […]
