Healing in Small Steps
Yesterday was tough. I spent most of it in bed, waiting out the pain from my recent bike accident, hoping for a little relief so I could get to the things I wanted—and needed—to do. I like to feel like I’m thriving every day, but right now, my body’s asking for something different: it needs […]
When Life Hits Hard
I got hit by a car while riding my bike the other day. I’m pretty banged up—covered in bruises, with a fractured wrist. It’s a frustrating change; I’m limited now, needing a lot of help with even the usual daily tasks. And for at least six weeks, my bike is off-limits, and biking is something […]
How to Get What You Want
It’s almost my birthday! Okay, I know it’s not almost my birthday—it’s on December 2nd. And I also know I don’t really have a whole “birthday month” or “birthday week,” but I like to say it anyway. Why? Because it gives me something to look forward to. The excitement of knowing there’s a day (or […]
Sharing Strength, Not Struggles
A friend of mine is really sick. A close family member is going through a divorce. A loved one is financially struggling. As I mention these struggles it might make you feel bad for me. I might even feel bad for myself. But when I really think about it, none of these problems are mine. […]
What You Can Control
Dear Me, You are not in charge of everything. It may feel like you are. It may seem like if you work hard enough, you can manipulate everything to work out the way you want. But you can’t. There are things within your control and things that will always be outside of it. Focus on […]
Resisting Activities I Love
Last night, I had my regular call with my brothers. We meet once a week to catch up, and honestly, I didn’t feel like getting on the call. I was considering canceling when, right on time, the phone rang. I picked it up, and we ended up chatting for hours. I had a blast. What […]
Find the Next Right Step
If you are experiencing an emergency, stop reading this and tend to it. If you’re not, then stop telling yourself that you are. When we keep replaying painful moments from our past and imaginary **threats in our future, we are sending signals to our body that we are experiencing trauma. When I replay the pain […]
When Helping Hurts
I’ve always loved helping. I’d jump in to make someone’s work easier, help their party go smoothly, or even try to boost their self-esteem. It felt good to be the person who set aside my own needs to be of service. But when I really looked at it, I started to see it wasn’t all […]
Why Are You Doing That?
When we head to work, there’s usually a clear motivator—put in the time, get paid. But outside of that? What drives us to do the tasks that don’t come with a paycheck? If we don’t have an obvious reason, those tasks can feel overwhelming or pointless. This is where asking **why** becomes really helpful. When […]
Don’t Run Away
Sometimes I feel like running away. That feeling is always a signal, a heads-up that something is wrong. Usually, it happens because I’m running on fumes—depleted of basic things like food, sleep, or fun. Other times, I start thinking about everything I need to do for the day, and the sheer size of the list […]
