Celebrate Times!
It’s time to celebrate! I don’t want to wait until the end of the week, a big goal, or even a milestone birthday. I need to celebrate along the way. There are many tasks to complete in order to reach a big goal, and daily chores to tackle in order to create the life I […]
Start Over
This week is not going as planned, and it’s frustrating to put effort into planning and organizing only to encounter unexpected obstacles. When my plans go sideways midweek, my initial reaction used to be to give up on the rest of the week. Though I do believe that taking some time off can be helpful, […]
Can’t Complain
I consider myself a positive person. So when I heard that people were challenging themselves to a 24-hour period of not complaining, I thought, “that can’t be hard” and joined in. I made a promise to myself not to complain for one day. Of course, the exercise was more challenging than I thought it would […]
True Justice
“True Justice is paying only once for each mistake” – The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz When I make a mistake, disappointment washes over me, making me inclined to beat myself up about it. I repeat the story in my head, pinpointing places where I could have done better, and even resort to name-calling […]
Who Asked You?
Have you ever felt the sting of giving good, sound, and even necessary advice but the person you’re talking to is so disinterested that you can hear their eyes roll? People tend to reject advice. Especially unsolicited advice. I mean, who asked you anyway?! Whenever I want to start my sentence with “you know what […]
Fear Not
I am about to go on stage. I’ll be performing the same thing I’ve practiced for a long time. I’m used to doing it, and normally, that makes me relaxed beforehand. But today, I’m nervous. Today I’m nauseous. I’m starting to doubt myself, questioning if what I’m about to perform is useless and boring. Thoughts […]
Not Just Happy
I wasn’t always in the habit of asking myself how I am feeling. Instead, my consistent question was “why aren’t I happy”. Happiness was my only desire. If I didn’t have it, I needed to go get it. I was chasing one feeling and avoiding all others. It felt desperate. I can’t always be happy. […]
I’ll Have What She’s Having
Are you jealous of someone? Do you want what they’ve got? Perfect. Use that emotion productively. Feeling jealous means you have been woken up to something you want. And you have an example of someone who was able to get it. When I feel jealous I can sit in my anger, let it fester, and […]
Rain on Your Wedding Day
I’ve spent time being mad at the rain. It sounds (and is) absurd, but the rain has ruined plans I was very much looking forward to, and I had trouble getting over it. It felt like nothing else would be able to make me happy that day. No other activity would be good enough. The […]
Swimming Upstream
A couple of months ago, I told myself I would go to the pool for exercise once a week. I didn’t want to commit to more, and once a week seemed doable. I’ve been keeping that promise to myself, but this week, following through was a challenge. The internal dialogue was distracting. I found myself […]
