Sharing Strength, Not Struggles
A friend of mine is really sick. A close family member is going through a divorce. A loved one is financially struggling. As I mention these struggles it might make you feel bad for me. I might even feel bad for myself. But when I really think about it, none of these problems are mine. […]
What You Can Control
Dear Me, You are not in charge of everything. It may feel like you are. It may seem like if you work hard enough, you can manipulate everything to work out the way you want. But you can’t. There are things within your control and things that will always be outside of it. Focus on […]
Resisting Activities I Love
Last night, I had my regular call with my brothers. We meet once a week to catch up, and honestly, I didn’t feel like getting on the call. I was considering canceling when, right on time, the phone rang. I picked it up, and we ended up chatting for hours. I had a blast. What […]
Find the Next Right Step
If you are experiencing an emergency, stop reading this and tend to it. If you’re not, then stop telling yourself that you are. When we keep replaying painful moments from our past and imaginary **threats in our future, we are sending signals to our body that we are experiencing trauma. When I replay the pain […]
When Helping Hurts
I’ve always loved helping. I’d jump in to make someone’s work easier, help their party go smoothly, or even try to boost their self-esteem. It felt good to be the person who set aside my own needs to be of service. But when I really looked at it, I started to see it wasn’t all […]
Why Are You Doing That?
When we head to work, there’s usually a clear motivator—put in the time, get paid. But outside of that? What drives us to do the tasks that don’t come with a paycheck? If we don’t have an obvious reason, those tasks can feel overwhelming or pointless. This is where asking **why** becomes really helpful. When […]
Don’t Run Away
Sometimes I feel like running away. That feeling is always a signal, a heads-up that something is wrong. Usually, it happens because I’m running on fumes—depleted of basic things like food, sleep, or fun. Other times, I start thinking about everything I need to do for the day, and the sheer size of the list […]
Control Your Mind
Have you ever thought yourself into a stomach ache? I have. My worrying mind has been so intense that my stomach got in knots, and I even felt nauseous. This was all from overthinking. No one was attacking me, I wasn’t in physical danger, and the thoughts were not useful. But I made myself sick […]
Beating Perfection Paralysis
I’ve struggled with organization my whole life. Growing up, my room was always messy. In school, my binder and folders would end up a disaster within days of starting the school year. As an adult, this translated into my mail and paper system. I couldn’t keep track of anything. Piles and bags of paperwork would […]
I’m Every Woman
Sometimes I get really loud and excitable and need a party of people to have fun with. Sometimes, I think the world is too loud and I need to be quiet and alone. Sometimes I want to share my controversial opinions and scream them at everyone. Sometimes I just want to sit back and listen. […]
