Direct Your Mind
Why do I keep learning how my mind works? Why do I keep practicing mindfulness exercises? What is all this effort actually doing? The more I learn about the mind, the more I see it as a tool. And like any tool, it needs to be kept clean, organized, and sharp. Here’s how I think […]
When Helping Hurts
I’ve always loved helping. I’d jump in to make someone’s work easier, help their party go smoothly, or even try to boost their self-esteem. It felt good to be the person who set aside my own needs to be of service. But when I really looked at it, I started to see it wasn’t all […]
I Want My Mommy: How to Adult
Life can be really challenging sometimes… a lot of times. I’ve started to think of myself as the person I’m assigned to take care of. Parenting myself seemed like a sad idea at first. Shouldn’t I have parents for that? Is it pathetic to need to self-soothe? That’s when I need the good self-talk to […]
Who’s Fault Is It Anyway?
Whose fault is it that your life is harder than it needs to be? Who set you back? Was it a parent, the lack of parents, a teacher, a neighbor, a friend, or an ex? You’re probably right—if they didn’t do the damaging things they did to you, your life might be different. It’s not […]
The Power of Choice: How Your Perspective Shapes Your Reality
Tell someone life sucks, and they’ll likely nod in agreement. Tell them it’s a wondrous adventure, and they might say the same. The truth? Life is both. It’s a beautiful paradox: joy and sorrow, triumph and hardship. The key lies in how we choose to view our world. Our perspective shapes the story we tell […]
The Fortune Teller: Real Ways to Actually Shape Your Future
Wouldn’t you just love a real crystal ball, a way to guarantee our efforts today will pay off tomorrow? We want absolute certainty that our work will lead to a brighter future. But the truth is, there are no guarantees. The future remains unseen, regardless of our accomplishments. It’s understandable to struggle with investing time […]
Mind Your Business – Why Sticking to Your List Empowers You and Others
Ever feel the urge to swoop in and take over other people’s responsibilities? Sure, it might feel like the helpful thing to do in the moment, but sometimes it can backfire. Imagine you’re at a potluck. You’re assigned a simple side dish, a manageable task. But instead, you end up bringing the entire spread: salads, […]
