When Helping Hurts
I’ve always loved helping. I’d jump in to make someone’s work easier, help their party go smoothly, or even try to boost their self-esteem. It felt good to be the person who set aside my own needs to be of service. But when I really looked at it, I started to see it wasn’t all […]
I’m Every Woman
Sometimes I get really loud and excitable and need a party of people to have fun with. Sometimes, I think the world is too loud and I need to be quiet and alone. Sometimes I want to share my controversial opinions and scream them at everyone. Sometimes I just want to sit back and listen. […]
Stop Giving Advice
A few years ago, I made the decision to stop giving unsolicited advice. It’s been tough to stick with, especially when someone opens up and I think I have the perfect solution. The urge to fix problems is strong. But I’ve come to believe that resisting that impulse makes me a better, kinder person. When […]
What Do I Want
I’ve noticed times when I’m caught in a negative spiral, spending my day focused on what I don’t want. Whether it’s dreading a project, not wanting to talk to someone, or even disliking where I live, these thoughts can weigh me down. It’s not wrong to acknowledge what I don’t want, but it becomes exhausting […]
Get Unstuck in One Minute
I rolled my eyes the first time someone suggested I make a gratitude list. Meditation seemed like a waste of productive time, and yoga? That was for hippies. It took me a while to realize that I was responding out of ignorance—rejecting things I’d never sincerely tried. Nothing keeps me more locked into ignorance than […]
Recovering from a Mistake
The other day, I lost all my work by hitting the wrong button and forgetting to turn on my backup. I hate making mistakes. It feels like such a setback. Trying again after a mistake is frustrating, sometimes even more challenging than the first time. It’s scarier, more draining, and often requires new ideas or […]
Do Scary Things
The scariest moment I’ve ever had on a bike was the first time I tried to ride a two-wheeler. The uncertainty of not knowing what I was doing while trying to figure it out on the move was terrifying. The whole experience felt overwhelming, and I was scared. The second scariest ride came after my […]
It’s Their Fault
How many people can you blame for the issues you’re dealing with today? We’ve all been hurt, pushed down, or betrayed by someone. We’ve all experienced situations where our expectations went sideways due to other people’s actions, whether intentional or not. And we might be right—maybe our lives would have taken a better or easier […]
The Universe is Against Me
Everything seems to be going badly for me recently. My projected costs for life are more than I anticipated, my bike tire has gotten a flat every other week, and the new place I moved into has multiple issues on a regular basis. It feels like every decision I’ve made recently has come with a […]
Comparing is Dangerous
I was watching a documentary about poverty and homelessness in the U.S., and I got curious about the comments. A lot of people were saying things like, “I thought I had it bad, but now I know to be grateful.” One person even shared an old saying: “I felt bad for myself because I had […]
