How I Overcame My Shyness
When I was younger, I was so shy that I could barely talk to anyone, let alone have an intelligent or fun conversation. I didn’t know how to express myself, and most of my reactions to people happened in my head. If I needed to confront someone or express discomfort, I’d run through all the […]
Don’t Lose Your Mind
I would like to always be kind, thoughtful, and considerate. I think many of us want that. But then, life throws us a tough moment, and we quickly react with a sharp and cruel response. How does that happen? We don’t want to be mean to people we know and love, but stress pushes us, […]
Which Way Do I Go Now?
Self-help information can sometimes sound confusing, even contradictory. One moment, I’m talking about the importance of taking breaks, and the next, I’m advocating for pushing through feelings and continuing to work. Sometimes, I emphasize the importance of doing the work, while at other times, I stress the need to play and relax. It can be […]
Wouldn’t It Be Nice
Sometimes, I don’t want to grow or learn. I just want to sit and stare at the ocean while my favorite foods magically appear. These moments can be unsettling. My mind starts judging, making me worry I’ve lost all my progress and will fall into a rut. But I have to catch myself and laugh; […]
Dear ChatGPT, What Do I Do Now?
This morning, I woke up feeling “off.” In a moment of introspection, I decided to ask ChatGPT for some guidance. Here’s the prompt I typed: “I’m 48 years old, I just left a 19-year career to start a new one that is moving really slow. I also moved out of my home city into a […]
What Are You Looking At?
Why look at my mistakes? It feels embarrassing and frustrating, and most likely, if I’m replaying a mistake, it’s because I didn’t get what I wanted or needed from my efforts. For example, maybe my goal was getting into better shape. If I made an effort and saw no results—or, even worse, ended up in […]
Don’t Panic!
I love those videos where a toddler thinks they’re stuck but just needs to duck, move a small object, or stand up for a different perspective. It’s funny how it gets me emotional about how I handle my own issues. Like those kids, I have panicked when something changed or challenged me. I worried, felt […]
What Does “Finding Yourself” Mean?
What does finding yourself mean? It sounds made up. I’m right here. I can see myself. Who would I be looking for? Well, I have felt lost before. I’ve lost track of my goals, gotten lost in a social media scroll, or lost myself in a good book. Sometimes, I even feel like my actions […]
Admit You Have Feelings!
I used to believe that feeling ‘negative’ emotions was a sign of weakness. Anger, sadness, fear – these were emotions reserved for villains in movies, not for someone who aspired to be kind and positive. So, I pushed them down, buried them deep, convinced that a life without these dark emotions would be brighter. I […]
Create Yourself
I talk to myself all day. Sometimes, I have full-blown conversations, asking myself questions and answering them. This is common. We talk to ourselves, sing to ourselves, and even yell at ourselves sometimes. Recently, I realized that I invented a “me” that helps me be more productive—the “me” I want to be. When I don’t […]
