Ever since the pandemic, my social behavior has shifted. Due to some health issues, I isolated for a couple of years. Although I kept in touch with friends and had a very social job, it was all digital. I had control over who I invited into my world with just a click, and with another click, they were gone. Now that we’re back to in-person interactions, I haven’t fully re-assimilated into regular socializing. It felt odd to only interact digitally, though I was really grateful for the connection—it was a lifesaver. But now, real life feels a bit out of control, and I’ve noticed some anxiety around it.
I’m taking steps to move through this discomfort, but it’s still there, and it helps to admit it.
Yesterday, I experienced that discomfort when I found myself in need of help from strangers. I was a few miles from home, riding my bike when I had to pull over due to a flat tire. Just as I was assessing my options, a couple stopped beside me. They immediately offered to put my bike in their car and drive me home, even though it was in the opposite direction for them.
I was stunned—first because I suddenly had to interact with people, and it kicked in my discomfort. I not only had to quickly engage with them without the safety of a digital barrier but also assess if they were truly friendly.
I noticed my social anxiety and found the courage to say something like, “I’m just so overwhelmed by your gesture that I might be coming off odd. I want you to know that I really appreciate your kindness.” And they truly were the nicest people. They got me home safely, with lovely conversation on the way back, leaving me with a renewed sense of hope in humanity.
I’m not sure if I’ll ever be the same social person I was before the pandemic, but I do believe I’ll find a way to be a new version of my interactive self—one that finds comfort in surprise meetings and new friends. In the meantime, I’ll keep practicing whenever I’m lucky enough to have the opportunity.
ACTION: Reflect on how the pandemic has changed your social habits and interactions. Consider journaling or talking to someone about any anxieties or discomfort you feel in social situations. By acknowledging these feelings and taking small steps to engage with others, you can gradually build confidence in your new social self.
