Living with Pain

I’m in a lot of pain from my accident. Of course, I don’t want to be, but just wishing it away isn’t exactly a plan. When my body hurts, it doesn’t just stop there—my mind gets involved, trying every trick it knows to get rid of it. And if I deny the pain, it’s like I’m starting an argument with my mind:

Mind: Hey, you’re in pain.

Me: Nope, I’m fine.

Mind: Oh, right. Well, a bag of chips would probably make you feel better.

Me: That sounds perfect.

But while I’m eating the chips, my mind circles back (now with a toxic potato chip haze):

Mind: You’re still in pain.

Me: Nope. Don’t know what you’re talking about.

Mind: But your body is signaling pain.

It doesn’t stop there, either. My mind will try another angle. It’ll continue to respond to the pain and as long as I deny it, I take the wrong action. I might lash out at someone or find a numbing distraction, when really, it’s trying to tell me something: Hey, you’re in pain.

Pain is the body’s signal that we need something. If I deny it, I’m using my energy everywhere but where it’s needed. I’m gaslighting myself. Admitting it doesn’t mean I’m stuck in it; it’s what frees up that energy to actually respond—to take the medication, to follow the doctor’s advice, to rest.

It’s not about denying or escaping. It’s about taking one simple, intentional step that’s right for where I am.

ACTION: When pain arises, start by acknowledging it: “This hurts, and I need a moment.” Then, ask yourself, “What do I truly need right now?” Let that small step be one that nurtures, whether it’s resting, taking a breath, or gently moving forward in a way that supports you. Taking mindful, intentional action—even in pain—can ease the mind’s scramble for quick fixes and build resilience in moments that matter.

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