Give Me a Sign
Change is challenging, especially when it’s hard to pinpoint exactly what to change or how to go about it. I’m experiencing multiple transitions right now: a new career, a new city, and the changes that come with being a 48-year-old female. While it can be exciting, I forget to find the thrill in the newness because, initially, change is hard.
One of the toughest parts of change is decision-making. New situations bring more uncertainty, making decisions feels harder. In familiar settings, both work and play require less effort because the processes are known. In this new place, I find myself thirsty for a clear sign. I want to know whether to keep going or quit, to pivot or lean in. But, that’s not how novelty works. There’s rarely a big sign saying “this way” to success. Instead, there are small moments that need my attention. I need to check in with myself:
- Are my decisions aligning with who I want to be? If I keep making these small choices, will I become a person I like?
- Am I being patient? Change isn’t black and white; it’s a gradual adjustment. Am I giving it the time it needs, or am I expecting everything to be perfect overnight?
- Am I putting in the work or just reacting to it?
Embracing the uncertainty of change requires patience and self-awareness. IT’S. SO. HARD. I don’t feel like doing it every day. I don’t always want to do anything, even things I enjoy. But by checking in regularly, I create a habit of observing reality. This widens my perspective and helps me notice what I need to be kind to myself while processing and moving forward.
ACTION: Take a moment to consider a choice you have to make. Reflect on the actions required for each option. Ask yourself: Which of these actions am I willing to take? This will help you move forward with a decision that aligns with your values and your willingness to commit.
