Mind Your Business – Why Sticking to Your List Empowers You and Others
Ever feel the urge to swoop in and take over other people’s responsibilities? Sure, it might feel like the helpful thing to do in the moment, but sometimes it can backfire.
Imagine you’re at a potluck. You’re assigned a simple side dish, a manageable task. But instead, you end up bringing the entire spread: salads, desserts, the main course. You might think you’re doing everyone a favor, but here’s the thing: you’re overstepping boundaries. Maybe you’re subconsciously seeking praise: “Wow, [your name] really went above and beyond!” Or perhaps you’re trying to prove your own busyness – a martyr to the never-ending to-do list.
Here’s the truth: sticking to your list, tackling your own responsibilities, is the real act of respect. It shows trust. You trust the people around you to handle their own tasks, just like you’re handling yours. This creates a space for everyone to learn and grow from their experiences, building self-reliance and fostering a sense of shared responsibility.
It’s not selfish or isolating to keep your focus on your own list. In fact, it’s the foundation for being your best self. When you’re not overloaded and overwhelmed, you can genuinely show up for others. You’re more likely to be present, reliable, and truly supportive. Remember, a potluck thrives on individual contributions, not one person hijacking the entire menu.
ACTION: Next time you feel the urge to help, instead of jumping in, take a beat to ask yourself, “Is this truly on my list?” Focusing on your own tasks first empowers you to be a better supporter – and lets others shine with their own contributions.
