First Things First
There are times when I’m working on a project and become constantly distracted. I try to write, but my mind starts bouncing from thought to thought: vacation plans, a lunchtime craving, even work-related detours like emails or project ideas. This likely happens because I haven’t truly committed to the writing task at hand. I sit down to do it, but my focus gets hijacked by thoughts of other activities.
My brother uses a helpful technique he calls “first/then” with his young children. He understands why they resist tasks like getting dressed or eating – they’re fixated on the fun activity promised afterward, like ice cream. His solution? A simple reminder: “First we get dressed, then ice cream” to assure them the promised reward isn’t forgotten, just delayed.
I apply the “first/then” technique myself now. First, I will sit down and write this blog entry. Then, I will get ice cream. If I think about ice cream the whole time, it will only take longer to finish writing. By agreeing to write first and then get my reward,
The “first/then” technique reminds me not to suppress my desires, but instead to prioritize them strategically. By acknowledging my cravings or future plans, I can focus on the current task with greater clarity and efficiency, knowing the reward awaits. This simple shift allows me to be present in the moment while keeping my future wants and needs in sight.
ACTION: Try the “first/then” technique! Choose a task you’ve been putting off and pair it with a small reward you can enjoy afterward.
