Resistance and Discomfort
When I start a new habit or make a change in my life, I can feel a strong resistance in my mind and body. I want to do the task, believing it will improve my life, but there’s a struggle to follow through.
Our brains are wired to avoid discomfort. So, when I ask myself to do something different, like getting out of bed earlier, my mind tries to protect me from the discomfort of leaving the warmth and comfort.
To help me follow through, I talk to myself. By giving myself new information, I make the task more manageable.
Let’s use the example of a warm bed:
- Mind: “Stay in bed. It’s warm here. You deserve the rest.”
- Me: “This will be uncomfortable for a few moments, but I want to do it. I want to be a person who wakes up earlier. I’d rather feel cold for a bit than regret not doing what I promised myself.”
After completing the task, I reinforce the positive sentiment. When I get out of bed at the earlier time, I tell myself, “That was worth it. I’m glad I got up early. I’m proud of myself for following through and doing what I promised.”
Sandwiching the new habit with positive self-talk gives me a reason to repeat it.
ACTION: If you’re starting a new habit, accept the initial discomfort and take a small step towards your goal. Then, reward yourself with positive self-talk to solidify the positive experience.
