Mad About You
Some people think that because I’m interested in practicing mindfulness and work on my well-being means I never get angry, sad, or disappointed.
The truth is, I experience a full range of emotions. My intention with self-work isn’t to suppress emotions, but to manage them productively. My goal is to respond rationally rather than react impulsively.
One way I use my emotions to my benefit is by reflecting on my anger. I can focus on the person I’m upset with and consider ways they could improve. Then, I check that list of behaviors against my own responses. Am I acting in the way I’d like them to?
Ultimately, I can’t change someone else. I can’t convince or coerce them to be different. The only control I have is over my own responses and actions.
By focusing on myself, I can choose to direct myself away from negativity and towards the people and things in my life that are supportive and kind.
ACTION: Think of someone you’re upset with. Write down ways they could improve their behavior. Throughout the week, refer back to that list and see if you’re meeting your own standards. Are you responding in a way that aligns with your values?
