It’s Not Your Fault

There are so many experiences in my life that I can blame for holding me back. Like many people, I have been taken advantage of, dismissed, and treated unfairly. Those times have discouraged me and gave me excuses to stall my progress.

But here’s the thing: dwelling on blame won’t get me anywhere. I can point fingers all day (and maybe even be right!), but ultimately, making things better is up to me.

It’s not my fault, but blaming others keeps me stuck. The energy I waste on negativity is energy I could be putting into my own life.

The more I realize I can’t wait for someone to fix things with an apology or some magic solution, the clearer it becomes: the only changes I control are my own. Sure, the past might trigger me, but how I react is totally on me.

ACTION: When you feel unfairly triggered today, take a pause before responding. Try not to respond until you can choose a more measured approach.

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