Check My Nails. Baby How You Feelin’?

I can tell a lot about how I’m doing just by looking at my nails. It might sound strange, but they’re a pretty reliable indicator of how well I’m taking care of myself.

When my nails are uneven, chipped, or my cuticles are a mess, it’s usually because I’ve neglected them. Maybe a nail broke and I didn’t bother to fix it, or my cuticles are dry, and I’ve been anxiously picking at them. It’s a visible sign that I’ve been ignoring self-care.

These small signs are a heads-up that I might be rushing through life, overlooking the importance of taking time for myself. It’s a reminder that even small acts of care, like maintaining my nails, are worth prioritizing. When I see my nails in this state, I know I’m not giving myself the attention I need.

I used to get angry with myself when I noticed this. “Why can’t I take care of myself consistently?” I’d think. But now, I try to remove the anger and actually answer that question. Maybe I’ve let work take over my day without realizing it. Maybe I’m sad about something and haven’t given myself time to process it. Or maybe I’ve been having so much fun that I just neglected this aspect for a bit. It doesn’t always have to be something bad; it can simply be a reminder that I need a little care.

Because I’ve practiced not losing my mind when I notice something needs to change, I can use these small signals to bring awareness to what I need and take the time to adjust. It doesn’t have to be a big deal or a big mess—just a gentle nudge to take care of myself.

ACTION: The next time you notice small signs that you’re neglecting self-care, like skipping meals, avoiding exercise, or letting your workspace get cluttered, take a moment to check in with yourself. Reflect on what might be causing the neglect, and make a small adjustment to prioritize your well-being, whether it’s eating a healthy snack, doing a quick stretch, or tidying up your surroundings.

POST

Handling Difficult Relationships Calmly

There are people I have to “get ready” for. I need to set my mind at ease before meeting them because they tend to trigger me. I might feel baited into arguments or discussions I didn’t want to be...

Dealing with Disruption

I’ve developed a few routines for my day to help things go smoother—including some physical and mental exercises like planking, yoga, writing. I’ve done these long enough that I don’t need to think...

Actively Generate Motivation

This morning, I woke up needing a bit of a boost. I spent about half an hour listening to motivational speakers—lecturers, storytellers, even the occasional yeller—and watched some videos. It’s one of...

Coping with Setbacks

I used to hate the saying “two steps forward, one step back.” It always seemed unfair that after putting in all the effort to move ahead, I’d suddenly be dragged back again—like some...

How to Help When Someone’s Upset

I’ve heard it many times: when someone is upset, don’t offer solutions. Ironically, that idea seems to upset people. If someone I know is struggling and I can clearly see the solution, why wouldn’t I...

Stay Productive Through Intense Emotions

Today, I might not feel motivated to do my job. I might feel bored by the mundane tasks ahead or uninspired by the effort it takes to move through the day. I might not feel like working. But over the...