No One Is Coming

There are times when I need help, and it’s not always possible to get it right away. Maybe the people or resources I need aren’t available, or the person I want help from isn’t able or willing to provide it. Even though I understand that not everything can happen on my timeline, it still feels sad in the moment. That sadness can spiral into deeper feelings of fear and loneliness, sometimes leading to an existential crisis.

This is why I practice self-help exercises. I’m the only one who’s always here for me. While this can sound sad, it doesn’t need to be. Practicing self-soothing allows me to wait for help in peace. Seeing a wider perspective helps me recognize that frustration and sadness are temporary, and I can be okay until I find the right help. Practicing patience builds my confidence, showing me that I already have what I need to feel and be well.

I used to think self-help was for flaky or toxic people. But after studying it, I see it as exercising the mind. Practices like journaling, meditation, and yoga grow my awareness, helping me save myself long enough to get the help I need.

Self-help isn’t easy. It means accepting that no one is coming to save me. But it also means discovering that I don’t need to be saved—I need to be loved. And I can help myself find that.

ACTION: Take a minute to practice a simple self-care activity like deep breathing or stretching. Notice how it makes you feel and remind yourself that these small acts of self-care build resilience and patience for when you need support.

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