Self-Care: Bubble Baths and Bull

I’ve heard the term self-care more times in the past couple of years than in my whole life combined. But what does it mean? It’s a topic that seems very polarizing. Some people think self-care is for the selfish and weak. Others see it as a luxury… probably because we’ve been so conditioned to de-prioritize our needs to prove that we’re nice people.

I used to feel that way too. I pictured a fancy woman who takes a long bubble bath every day. She has time because someone else cleans the tub for her. When she gets out of the tub, a nutritious and delicious breakfast, prepared by her staff, is waiting for her. Then she has a long day of the usual: manicures, pedicures, massages, fancy lunches with elegant friends, etc.

Although self-care can very much be a manicure and a massage, what I recognize now is that self-care is not as much about being lavish but more about keeping myself healthy.

Now, self-care to me on some days means taking a shower and cutting my toenails. On other days, it means taking myself on a walk. And sometimes, it means getting a fancy massage.

Self-care isn’t about luxury; it’s about health and well-being. It’s about making sure we are functional, and can manage our everyday lives. The practices might look different for everyone, but the intention remains the same: to nurture ourselves so we can better handle the world around us.

ACTION: Spend one minute writing down three things you’re grateful for today. They can be as simple as having a roof over your head, a delicious breakfast, or a supportive friend. This quick practice can shift your mindset and boost your mood, reminding you of the positive aspects of your life.

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